Don't apologize to us!! We want what you want, whatever that is. You knowing that you need time and space and that is a good think to know about yourself.
Take this time. Do what you need to do. Figure out what you want. We're behind you all the way.
All of our situations are different. Someone standing while you may choose to fold does not mean that they have greater patience or confidence. It's just different. Know that in your heart.