You are doing great with this new job/move, and should be proud of yourself with how you are handling the situations that are arising around it. You can do nothing but succeed...
I can understand though some of the issues around smokey that are cropping up. It is really strange packing up your home, and not taking his stuff with you. Personally it struck me hard as to the things he had left behind. Some were just general things, at one point I wondered what he was wearing, but also personal things. Not just relating to us, but his family. I guess they were a lot of the reason behind how we ended up like this. You will get over it, but it is often the small things that cause the most grief...
As to your new home. I too looked at properties that were way too much for my budget. I figured if I had to give up my home I deserved to live somewhere I loved. It didn't work out quite like that. I ended up somewhere cheaper, in a location I don't love but has turned out to be quite practical in the shortish term. The great thing about renting is when the budget allows you can easily move on up! I will get there eventually, and so will you. In the mean time having your own things in a property, and a few personal touches, and as long as you are warm and comfortable you can make it work. Taking away the concerns about meeting the bills makes life much easier. When you wow them at the paper the salary increase will give you so much more choice, and being "on the spot" makes it easier too. I moved into this property, my sister chose it, and moving in day was the first time I walked through the door. The fact they allowed my GIANT dog swayed the decision greatly. But it has all worked out OK, and I know its not forever.
Keep up the good work. The dream may take a little longer, but you are giant steps closer. ABx
