My advice would be to focus on the second half of that famous phrase "Trust . . . but verify."
But she's claimed since July its over, and as recently as a week ago when I was still in snoop mode I saw clear evidence they were still getting hotel rooms together. So I have ZERO reason to believe its over or that she wants it over- to the contrary all evidence shows she is deep in the fog and very emotionally dependent on OM. Since she isn't ready to tell the truth there is no way to verify without snooping, and I'm not going there. Unless I'm missing something, its seems I STFU and DB, and once she shows signs of OM withdrawal or wanting to come back to me, THEN I verify through transparency and NC agrements- right?
Me: 45 W:43 M: 15, T:21 2 Kids- S-14, D-12 A Started: 10/2013 Discovered as EA: 6/2014, as PA: 7/2014 A changing, not ending Start DB'ing 9/2014 Same house, same bed
