This morning I backtracked (I know, don’t be too rough on me) from my “I want a separation” to “When I asked to separate, you asked for some time to think and consider things. I’m willing to give you some time so we both are going forward from the best possible place. My ask is that you end your relationship with OM and come back and work on our marriage with me. I think you will find that I am ready willing and able to work on all issues, including the ones I have caused. But I'm not going to work on our marriage with a third person involved, and I'm not going to wait forever."
W said “thank you” stood up and gave me a big, long hug. She then started with the “but just so we’re clear, nothing is still going on with OM.” I deflected with “I deliberately used the word “relationship”- I think we both see that your relationship with him is standing in the way of us making progress.” And I left it at that and walked out. She started to deny again but she stopped herself.
So now the real interesting time begins where I GAL like crazy, but I know I am going to be in constant fear of cake eating- she has me off her back, not pressuring, checking up or asking questions, and she gets to continue the A as we both pretend it isn’t going on! What a sweet deal for her- dinner will probably even be waiting for her on the table when she gets back from being with OM tonight.
I’m gonna need strength to keep doing this for a few months or years, but for now, I’m just trying to get through one day at a time.
Maybe I should STFU as I realize I am rambling and seem to be making way too many back to back posts. So if any of you other readers have any ideas or thoughts, I'd appreciate hearing them.
Last edited by Bart42; 09/11/1406:40 PM.
Me: 45 W:43 M: 15, T:21 2 Kids- S-14, D-12 A Started: 10/2013 Discovered as EA: 6/2014, as PA: 7/2014 A changing, not ending Start DB'ing 9/2014 Same house, same bed
