I started with asking her what she wanted, what she was hoping for etc..
She is hoping for her equity. Right now she's living at her sisters and has no job. She's planning on staying there for the next month or so and finding a job. Then look for something to rent. That's the extent of her current plan.
She asked me what I thought of our current situation.
I told her I was worried about her.
She said she was worried about herself. (she's been struggling with depression and confusion and just started going to therapy)
I said my instinct is to want to help her and be there for her etc but I need to let her take her own journey, and that I won't stand in her way.
We talked about what plans would put the least burden on our kids etc
She broke down. She said she appreciates me for how I've handled this situation and that most men would have cut and run a long time ago etc.
She said she doesn't want to rush me into anything (equity) or anything that is going to make me uncomfortable, and if so to let her know how I feel.
The "heavy" part of the convo ended and we spent the next 20 minutes shooting the sh!t and laughing (as we always do). (I just don't get how she doesn't see our connection.)
It seems she literally just wants to be by herself for a while to figure herself out. I'm sure at this point she at least fantasising what her perfect man is, but she's smart enough to know that doesn't exist. (we didn't get into it in this conversation, but one of her biggest problems is that she's lost the "intimacy" feeling for me)
M-38 W-32 D7, S4 M-10 BD-May '12 S for 1 month-June '12 Reconcile, Piecing
