happy belated birthday! sounds like you had a good one! so glad to hear it. I can relate to your post, my sitch is not all that old (feels like it is) but I figured out pretty quickly that I was not standing and let go of the rope as well. You're an inspiration to those of us that are finding ourselves again and finding peace and happiness. It feels great to be independent and take care of things on your own. congrats on getting your credit in order!! Acknowledging your fears is half the battle. I write them down in my journal and then tackle them one at a time. Sometimes i'd list exactly what I was afraid of because then it didn't seem that scary after all - like when I had to refi the house on my own, I put that off and put it off because of fear then I wrote down the reasons why it scared me and then I was reading them and thinking, what's to be scared of, won't kill me, either they approve me or they don't, if they don't I go to plan B, well they approved me and I marked that off my list and patted myself on the back and moved forward. You're doing such a great job of moving forward, you have a lot to be proud of! I see the bitterness and anger in a lot of divorced people too and I have flashes of anger once in awhile and then I just remember all my blessings now and I'm happy that it's in the past and I have so much to be grateful for, happier than I can ever remember being. You're so right - the healing really begins when you let go. Thanks for sending such a positive message in your posts!
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs
