Wife having emotional affair part 2

[3kids]

Ok Sandi or anyone else

Here is a good question. The wife just called to vent and talk a little. Apperently she has her mom helping her out on her days with the kids before school because she has school and can't be there. The S12 has school pictures today and of course she didn't help him pick out anything nice for pictures. She left it up to her mom and him. Her mom picks out the same shirt as last year pictures. Wife blows up at her mom. Wife is almost crying on phone to me about her mom trying to raise our kids like she raised her. Wife told her you didn't do that great of job with me what makes you think you can do that with my kids(irony ha ha). I validate, she gets calmed down. Tells me thank you for just listening and not gudging. Then proceeds to talk about how she is so stressed that she is having multiple anxiety attacts. With school, kids, us, life, and being a single parent. To the point even last night after I left our old house(staging it for realtor). Which I was really proud of my self in how I left! Great 180. She was going to call me and take her to the hospital. We talked about how dangerous this is and she needs to see a doctor about it and get help (do not need to be a widower). She says she wishs she could afford it. I help her through this little anxiety attack today and she thanks me whole heartedly. I was so in to it that even at the end of the conversation I called her sweetie. This was all a 180 for me because normally I would not have listened so well might even made a comment towards "suck it up buttercup" in a joking way.

My question is this to you all. Is this a bad thing for me to do. Always being there for her when she needs me. Does she need to know she is losing me in that aspect when she is divorcing me. Or is it good because she is reaching out to me. And calling me in her time of need. Obviously I must be doing something right if she is calling me instead of OM.