Bravo! I love the fact that you listen and dig in. I detect no defensiveness. That's one of my personal bugaboos You seem to be able to look very honestly at yourself and your actions.
Thank you. I am so grateful for you and everyone on this forum who asks hard questions and makes me think.
Originally Posted By: labug
I read more of your early threads last night and saw that your H took your D11 on a week long vacation and then they were together the next week because you and the older kids were off doing something. Seems he can handle it.
H is very good with the kids now that they are older and I have no qualms about sending them off with him in vacation mode. School mode will be new for him, but he's a big boy and can figure that out, too. I just have to let him.
Originally Posted By: labug
I think it's important for you, too, because you often remark about not having time for anything, helping with all the kid stuff then cleaning the house until late, no one knows your name only that you're (kid's)-mom, your GAL is coaching basketball for you D...There's some resentment tied up in all that.
What will you do for you in your free time?
Ok, there you go asking the hard questions again. Some people will be thinking "what's so hard about that?" right now, but I have been wrapped up in being Mom for almost 19 years now. It's comfortable, and I'm good at it. Being a mom is also a shield, I don't have to develop myself in other ways because, look at me, I'm really, really busy being a great mom. Doing things that don't involve my kids is uncomfortable and I'm not good at it. So it's hard. And this is where my brain starts swirling again.....
You seem to be able to look very honestly at yourself and your actions.