still holding on - 4

[u-turn]

Thanks Bart, being here has helped me so much - with advice from others directly to me and reading other's posts and advice.

It is confusing and I still think I am making so many mistakes.

I read through your story and the same type of lies were told about hotel rooms just to talk, chance meetings, I was just ending it with him until you started pressuring me, and I choose me and won't choose either of you.

Now we are in the - if she doesn't show any signs of it or talk about it, she doesn't have to lie (or A has fizzled). So I don't really know how to proceed, except to keep focusing on myself and kids. Right now I just know that nothing is going to happen quickly.

Her pursuit is definitely a curve ball that I don't know what to do about.

Also - if and when it comes to a stated transparency arrangement, it is easy to get around that too. work phones, work e-mails, deleted messages.....It would have to come back to sincerity and trust.

That is why I'm asking here, how do A's usually end, with fanfare (a big announcement and apology and tears) or silently dying and just filed away?