Bravo! I love the fact that you listen and dig in. I detect no defensiveness. That's one of my personal bugaboos smile You seem to be able to look very honestly at yourself and your actions.

I read more of your early threads last night and saw that your H took your D11 on a week long vacation and then they were together the next week because you and the older kids were off doing something. Seems he can handle it.

I think it's important for you, too, because you often remark about not having time for anything, helping with all the kid stuff then cleaning the house until late, no one knows your name only that you're (kid's)-mom, your GAL is coaching basketball for you D...There's some resentment tied up in all that.

What will you do for you in your free time?

Often times the marriage does get left in the dust of the family life. Sad but true.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss