Well we kind of just talked about it. I said I was willing to work on the underlying problems plaguing our marriage before I left if she would tell the guy that her affair was over (which she hasn't done yet). I've made significant changes to how I behave and act towards her in terms of appreciation and treating her like she should be treated as a loving wife, but it's all been overshadowed by this affair.
If she won't tell him then I will, and it's not going to be polite. I've let her know that if she can't separate from him outside of the occasional work encounter (they work for partnered marketing companies) then the BD is coming on the grounds of adultery. I've been sleepless the last few nights thinking about what they were doing while I was away, I can't deal with it anymore.
