still holding on - 4

[Bart42]

U-turn, really appreciate your journaling- the current status of my sitch has a lot of similarities to yours, and as a noobie I ‘m learning a lot from your posts (and getting strength from knowing I’m not going through this alone). I’ve stopped trying to wonder why my W reaches out to hold my hand or give me a hug (no mindreading!) while continuing her A- I just accept it without reciprocating or reaching out myself. I recognize some contact is better than none, that there must be some feeling behind it, and that I just have to try to wait this out. I’m just as confused as you are as to where the line is between supporting cake eating/responding to the pursuit and standing firm that the A must end. It feels like la la land sometimes when I’m being touched and hugged while W denies the A continues, I can only GAL and pray she comes to her senses and figures out what she wants before I come to the end of my rope.