To be completely honest, it has been super hard to be that person. For the past 4 months she has been gone, out of my life.
It took a while, but I was able to detach, create a support system and move on with my life.
The past month or so has been a whirlwind of moving, paperwork, having to have increased contact with her. Honestly it threw me in to an emotional whirlwind. As I finally get my own place again (getting keys to the ground floor of a 100 year old victorian home downtown on Sunday), get settled into my new surroundings and town I'm starting to find myself again.
Frankly, I like it more when she is in her own space creating her own messes. When I get lumped into it my body gets into this fight or flight response and I get dragged into her crazy reactions.
Loving getting on with my own life, maybe one day she'll come out of her fog, though at this point I really doubt it.
Regarding the OM. They work together in a pretty small company. Knowing her she will pull the siren card to continue to re-engage. Knowing her, and other people have confirmed, she is terribly afraid of being alone. So I think the OM will be in the picture in some fashion for a while (at least as a FWB)
Me: 35 Her: 33 D : 16 S : 9 Together: 14 years Married: 12 She left 4/14/2014 Separated: 5/25/2014 OM Confirmed 7/2014 She filed 8/7/2014 I Filed 10/21/2014 Divorce final 2/12/2015
