Thanks Georgiabelle. I agree that she is not 'all in' right now. Mindreading, but I get the feeling this is more of a 'let's try MC, family time, increased communication to see if my feelings come back' as opposed to 'I want my feelings to come back, so let's MC, date, etc'.
Maybe that's why I struggle with balancing pursuit vs continuing to treat her like a friendly neighbor. I'm not trying to question vets advice, but if I don't pursue a little and give her opportunities to see the new Tarheel, will she want to continue towards R? Take our date the other night for example- I made sure to look her in the eyes, validate, ask questions...I could feel that it was helping her open up and feel more comfortable in sharing with me. Almost a year into S and I think W has initiated 1 on 1 time less than 5 times. Maybe that's telling me something...
But like I said, it's clear now that I've been over pursuing this past week, so need to step back.
