You'll never know what your adult teenager is thinking because he doesn't know from one minute to the next. Right now, he's comfortable living under the same roof w/you. You aren't pressuring him to do anything in the way of making decisions. Yes, it's a mental and emotional struggle and quite frankly, he is off in another world and his empathy chip is broken. Therefore, he's only worried about himself.
He truly doesn't want to move out and get a divorce and he's using his son as the reason for staying. He's quite content to stay there. Some mlcers just want the space and time to explore the world and still live at home. That's why it's important to develop your own interests/hobbies and live your life the best you can. He's a roommate and you are still "expecting" more from him.
You are looking for the old h to be responsible and have rational discussions. Not happening for a while. He's still on a mission to conquer the world his way and you are one of the lucky ones that he's not all over the place, acting out and being h@ll bent on the nasty train.
Learn to accept him for who he is today. Expectations very low or even set at zero and try not to figure him out because he will change course in two seconds because of the emotional train that he is on.
Keep the focus on you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
