Can I get her back??..

[LoveMyW]

Welcome aboard. Apparently you were not satisfied with the advice received from the other forum, or maybe didn't agree? I will cut to the chase here and tell you that even though you have found no evidence, she is showing signs of a young woman who wants to announce her single status. She is in a hurry and doing it publicly. So one has to ask....why?

Most women desire to be in a relationship most of their lifetime. You can observe them leaving one R to immediately go to another. They will have OM waiting in the wings while she's getting out of her M.

If she is not involved with another man, then she either wants to free herself up b/c she has her sights on somebody........or she wants to prowl. The single life is glamorize by Holywood, magazines, etc. Most of all, it is glamorized in her own fantasy. So right now, she just wants her freedom to start that lifestyle.

Is it possible to win her back? There are no garantees, but yes, it is possible. It won't be easy and it sure won't be quickly. A lot of men can't go the distance b/c it is a very long and hard road to travel. All you have to do is read the accounts from others here on the board.

First thing is to read the book Divorce Remedy b/c this board uses the principles taught in that book.

You will get more how to information as the posts start coming. Can't give it all at once, but I will tell you not to pursue. Back away and leave her alone. DBing is going to seem very strange to what your emotions are telling you.

Post every day and you will get more replies.

Thank you for the reply Sandi.. It wasn't that I wasn't happy with the advice elsewhere, or the fact I didn't agree.. The reason I have decided to post here is because this forum seems a lot better place with R "problem solving" than others..

The R status change on FB only came very recently, and although quick in the scheme of things, it isn't displayed publicly.. I only know because she told me.. When looking, it only has "no information to show"..

I do agree that the situation looks like getting ready to prowl etc, but I have seen no outward signs of that, and neither has anyone in the know.. Like I said, I do agree though, and my eyes are open to the fact..

I am in it for the long haul, as this woman is the girl of my dreams.. The distance and separation has only made me realise this more, and admittedly, I am at fault for pushing her love away, although she has had flaws in the marriage/separation as well, so I know I am not 100% to blame, and I have stopped beating myself up over it..

I will get my hands on DR ASAP.. I have stopped pursuing, and I have backed off.. I am also giving her space as well.. After my initial "beg, plead, cry" stage I have implemented LC and taken on board what I have read on this forum and it has helped..

Thank you once again for your reply..