I've been posting since June 03...but h and I have been separated since December 02. I filed for d in Nov 02 when I found condoms in his gym bag that he said he didn't use but that he didn't owe me an explanation.
We've been to d court twice...this last time I'd had enough so I put in for a dismissal on 2/14/04. H was livid said he was going to get his own attorney (up to this point he'd been using mine), take the kids, take the house (I'd gotten the house and equity in our last decree), sue me for support, etc....he said he was going to do me like I'd done him pretty much. I said bring it on, he hung up on me. 4 days later he invited me to dinner then to lunch the next day where I finally got out of him that he wasn't going to put in for the d, he didn't want a d, never had and wasn't going to do it now.
So here we are....I know that is the really short version...during the past year I've dealt with him dating, sleeping with me, yelling at me numerous times it was over, kids not wanting to see him, h disappearing for days at a time on his visitation, him taking the kids out of school with no word to me why, etc. It has been a long scary ride but I held firm and though I started the d I continued to maintain that I didn't want it. H is the one that kept the d up there though I offered to dismiss numerous times...finally I just dismissed without asking him.
And now that we are reconciling things are better...he's really trying to be more loving and involved with the kids. I don't push...just watch and encourage. He's doing all the rest.
it's a big change from this time last year....when I found him with OW after he slept with me. Big difference now.
