We had plenty of great times within the past 8 years and I'm sure W went back and forth plenty of times as far as how she felt, so by no means do I think she's been unhappy for the past 8 yrs straight. Just frustrating that I/we had all that time where changes could have occurred within our M.
She also mentioned remembering our trip to Ireland years ago and how she should have been so happy to go, but wasn't. Sure I wasn't the greatest company to be with at the time as I had a ruptured appendix the week before and wasn't my normal active self.
I know I'm going to get a big 2x4 for this pursuing move, but I emailed W this morning asking if she wanted to join me for an out of state wedding next weekend. I've mentioned it to her before, but hadn't actually asked her. She knows the wedding group and I'm going regardless, but think it would be a great opportunity to hang out and reconnect at our favorite vacation spot. She hasn't replied yet- I told her to take a few days and think it over. I'm not counting on her going, but it would say a lot about her effort in R should she decide to.