New here, my fairytale gone wrong

[BrightFuture]

Fthnluv, it looks like we could be neighbors. And my H works in a state up north.

I hear you, your H made a decision that affects your life and your kids’ lives big time. I also understand about the hopes and dreams that might never be realized the way they were envisioned. But, you can still go to Paris and Italy. You will get your dreams back, trust me. For now you don’t need to think about it, you need to think how to protect yourself financially.

We have a joint business too, and H still works as a self-employed. I used to work as independent consultant through our business. I was not able to get a contract for the whole year after my last contract ended, so I applied for a full time position. Now, I have a regular job, so technically H can go for a spousal support if he wants. I just hope that he will not have the guts to do it. He prides himself as being fare and reasonable.

I also supported H though some rough times, when he was unemployed or lost money in his business. During the year that I was out of work I didn’t get an support and barely heard a couple of words of encouragement. I guess it was hard for him to deal with his own stuff (which was not going that great.)

Did you have a free initial consultation with a lawyer? Or did you paid a fee? Sometimes the layers tell you the things to convince you to file for D immediately and also use their services, and if it is a free consultation they might not tell you everything. I would talk to a couple more different layers to get all the info.