Now that I reflect more, and based on your comments/Bond's I retract my advice about mentioning the kids. IN your situation, with the history you have, it's better not to remind her of how long her needs were unmet and how often she was lied to.
Back off from making so many demands and bringing up the R. It's way WAY too early for that. And your thread title about "seems like an eternity", well, look at MY signature block and you can probably imagine what I think of your timeline.
But maybe you can't....so I'll say it directly. 3 months is nothing. I've heard that for every year of misbehavior/misconduct, it takes one month of consistently different new behavior, to get your spouse to entertain the concept that you have changed.
So you have a ways to go - and I'm not sure you've really begun acting consistently different. So I'm not sure you can say the clock is yet ticking.
Make sense?
Last edited by 25yearsmlc; 09/10/1407:57 PM.
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