"I have made a lot of effort (early on) to point out to my W of what damage D will do to our children. "Think of the children!""
The problem with you telling her that is that it made you the biggest hypocrite. Your situation is different from the others on here because of you were the one who betrayed her repeatedly and you were blessed to have her not leave you. You just didn't want to see it.
That's why you can't apply the same techniques the majority of posters on here are using.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.