Now that we are separated, I have to COMPLETELY let go of parenting every other week.
Remember, we are all in training for the day when we watch our little ones leave the nest.
Ahoy, I admire you for being able to let go of parenting half the time. I am soooo not there. My gut feeling is that it's not good for D11, but I'm willing to consider that it has more to do with me than her.
My S (now 18) was a few weeks old when my mother referred to me not as my own name but ("S's name)'s mom". My D (now 16) had a friend who called me "(D's name)'s mom" for years past her other friends switched to Mrs. RPP. Everyone at my place of employment knows me as "(D11's name)'s mom" because she just graduated from here in the spring. I have little identity of my own, I'm Mom.
I was totally prepared to shoulder my 80% until they actually left the nest. The idea of giving it up before then is actually quite disturbing.
I have so many things to think about here. I appreciate the input from everyone.
