Blindsided but finding my way (3)

[Ahoy]

rppfl, I too handled the lion's share of parenting, thinking I was doing H a favor since he was so busy with work. Guess what? He resented it. Said I "interfered" with his parenting, that he felt he always had to "ask permission" to do something with daughter (not true- but we do have to communicate plans, right? in the past, anyway). Also, he feels that dads are made to look "stupid, stinky, and fat" (in TV commercials, I guess?). This is according to daughter who said, "well, you're not stupid or fat" (!). (But yes to stinky, apparently.) Somehow the TV perception of men is my fault, of course.

Now that we are separated, I have to COMPLETELY let go of parenting every other week. Difficult and scary, but also liberating in other ways. I have to find ways to be okay with his rules at his house, which contradict mine (regarding TV usage and devices, mainly).

My only advice is see this as an opportunity to let go a little control, and enjoy the bit of liberation it might bring you. Remember, we are all in training for the day when we watch our little ones leave the nest.