It was awesome...like a mini-honeymoon. We didn't ML a lot cause we had to share a room with our boys but H was very affectionate , hugging me in his sleep , patting my bottom at every occassion !
His dad was way cool and exactly like my h! They share even a similar taste in music, food, clothes, and ear rings. It was too uncanny! Dad's wife #4 is a big advocate of furthering the r between the 2. She agrees that h's current problems with the kids and I stems from his non-existent one with his dad. Wife #4 and I agreed to help her h and my h connect by getting them together alone as much as possible. Hs went golfing Friday and #4's h told my h that he thought he was a great father to our boys. My h seemed to be so happy after that...he became more affectionate if that's even possible!
We'll be going to Ohio in June to see his dad again.
I really enjoyed my time with h. He was very attentative. Even last night, held me close through the night.
We missed you on the BB! So, so happy your trip went so well. All the affection from h...WONDERFUL NEWS!
Quote: I really enjoyed my time with h. He was very attentative. Even last night, held me close through the night.
He is really re-connecting and showing with the actions. This is something we are all longing for. Keep on doing what you are doing! You have gained so much ground in the last 6 weeks! You are my role model!!
Sounds cool that you're seeing a possible cause to your H's issues, and that your FIL's wife is going to try and help them. Glad to hear things are going well. Of course, I'm also jealous that you got to go to Florida and I got to stay in the rain.
Good to get your post. Sorry you had rain! Florida was wonderful though too cold of a breeze for swimming. I was glad to go and glad to be back in Texas!
I was a trifle upset at h earlier for saying he'd come by this morning and he did not show up. He then called me around 3:30pm to say he'd been busy driving his friend around town and was not near me. He said why don't you come over here and get the stuff you need for the boys. (Right then I could feel myself getting angry...why is his friend more important than getting the boys things to me? Why could he not come by on his way back to drop his friend off?) I said and you could come by here on your way home? He said well we didn't go near RR only to Austin then Cedar Park. I then said simply you know I think the boys can do without their stuff. I think they'll be ok. There was a long silence and then h says ohhhhhhhhhhhkay. I said ok then have a good night. Bye.
It truly is inconvenient for me to come over there...I have lots to do plus a 45 minute drive home and really don't feel like making it. H on the other hand did not work today.
I don't know if I should let this become an issue or even if it is one....did he actually put his friend before us? I had told him this morning that I needed the boys soccer gear...he made no mention of taking his friend around town only that he'd be by in the morning. Now that I think on it I think he did he just blew me off as not important. Or at least that is how it feels.
Should I say anything about it or continue to act like it didn't bother me?
You are making such progress...don't let this bump in the road slow you down! Act as if things are ok. You took care of yourself by not going to get the things. Put the responsibility for the boys getting their things squarely on his shoulders. Ask him again nicely if he can bring them to the boys. Explain that you don't have time to come and get them. It's worth a shot.
Remember too that you just had a great vacation! Focus on the positives and let the negatives slide by a bit...maybe H just needed a little space after the closeness of a family vacation....
ML a lot cause we had to share a room with our boys but H was very affectionate 
, hugging me in his sleep 
