Labug, I am indeed a little sassy. Sometimes that gets lost. Right now I'm spending most of my free time coaching D11's basketball team. I'd really like to do something else that's not kid-related but haven't found that thing yet. I may possibly have more free time when H leaves, that's yet to be seen, it depends largely on how D16 reacts and how much time she wants to spend with him.
H replied to my suggestion that we reevaluate the holiday schedule later, and he wasn't particularly nice. I don't think he was expecting that I wouldn't welcome him to the Thanksgiving table with open arms, and he was quite snippy about it. It surprised me, and surprised me even more that he referenced our "underlying issues and the relationship dynamics." That's not what this discussion was supposed to be about. To this day, I don't really understand what the "issues and dynamics" are, I asked him to please expand on what those issues are for my own knowledge and for the sake of our future co-parenting relationship. I know that smacks of R talk, I didn't mean it that way, really, and he brought it up, not me. But I didn't want to pass up the opportunity to finally understand what this is all about. H and I may never have a R (outside of the 3 kids) again, but I'm going to with someone and I need to know what to work on before I get there.
