I was very negative with him. He traveled a lot for work and when he got home he was very checked out. I wanted help with the kids, and I wanted to do things together as a family. Instead of explaining to him what would make me happy, I would yell at him and tell him my demands not my feelings. I resented that he had a fun life outside of the home (work) and I didn't. I didn't handle myself properly and acted childish. He often told me my tone was horrible and that I should calm down and speak to me in a more respectful way. I realize that now, but at the time he barely complained and I felt that it was the only way he would "hear" me. Instead I pushed him away. He didn't want to come home because I would nag him and tell him he needs to help more, which in turn made him more distant. It was a vicious cycle. Thankfully our kids are a little older now and with my new perspective (don't sweat the small stuff) I realize I shouldn't have spoken to him the way I did and we should have calmly sat down and discussed our issues instead of my yelling at him the minute he walked in the door.
