But it's as if he has this vision of la-dee-da divorce where things magically work out easily for everyone and we just get along fabulously. He can't bear to be the bad guy. But in some ways this felt worse.
That may be true, it may not be but continuing to believe that story already creates the backstory for an adversarial relationship. Take his offer at face value. This is DIFFICULT, no way around that. If you don't want to do a lot of negotiating this year, say that, "I appreciate your offer but because this is all so new to us, I'd like to stick to our original agreement. My only preference would be that we not have to shuttle D around too much, that she gets to enjoy her time with each family." (or, whatever. that would be my preference)
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
