I just see way too many posts by you that seem to indicate that you think the mere ending of their affair would be some sort of "magic bullet" that would automatically make your wife "snap out of it" and be drawn back to you. Posts like this one are just one example:
Originally Posted By: nmwb123
My thoughts are this: My wife's affair has been going on for three months now (PA, the EA started six months ago). If most affairs end within six months, and I want to save my marriage, then I should at least try to drag the divorce proceedings out so that we do not end up divorced before those six months are up. Once she is no longer with the AP, maybe she will be more open to communication.
There's nothing magic about that "6 months" thing that gets tossed around here, and I've never even seen any research to back it up. And -- more importantly -- if you don't simultaneously WORK ON YOURSELF, your wife would likely turn to an OM2 even if she did end it with OM1.
I do firmly belong in the "you need to separate the addict (infidel) from the source of their addiction (OM)" camp, but doing that ALONE is not going to guarantee you any success, nmwb. I barely see anything in your posts that indicate you are working on the parallel path (GAL, self-improvement, etc.) necessary to re-attract your wayward wife.
