Funny you brought that up about the kids and the "stress" that they feel when both parents need to be around them and each other, Heather. I've been thinking lately about the future and the impact that my W wanting a D is going to have...what about when the girls get married? Instead of a happy, fun time they are going to need to worry about how mom/dad feel about things. Like will one or the other bring OP? What if one or both are remarried? What about seating arrangements and who should sit where and if that will cause stress. Will dad give her away or is it still OK to have us say "Our mother and I"? What about when there are grandkids? What about birthday parties, X-mass, vacations, etc.? By doing what my W is she is going to have profound effects on not just my and her lives but our kids and even grandkids lives!
I have always looked forward to the future. I have thought about my D's weddings and what they will be like and the things I wanted to do for and with them. Looked forward to being involved grandparents, telling stories and spoiling the grandkids. Now all that is up in the air and will never be totally without some amount of awkwardness and stress because my W has gone off the deep end and wants to replay her "lost" years! Ugh!
Sorry to hijack, Mighty, just something I've had on my mind and I'm sure many of us here think about.
