I just want to make the AP uncomfortable to put more pressure on the A. The divorce will put pressure on the A, but I would like for the A to end before the D is final so that there is a chance for reconciliation without going through with the D.
And you think the mere technical ending of the affair will re-attract your wife to you? And that filing this legal action will aid in that effort?
Really?
Look, I happen to be a BIG "affairus interruptus" guy around here -- anyone will tell you. I am ALL ABOUT making things as difficult as possible for people to carry on affairs (blocking their IP address from using the home internet connection to send pics of themselves to their OM/OW, confronting them right before a big rendezvous to ruin their romantic weekend, etc.) . . . and I also happen to believe in legal accountability for adultery, including where possible jurisdictions having civil and even criminal recourse.
But I would ONLY do that if I was DONE, and I wouldn't look for it to be in any way, shape or form a tactic to re-attract my wayward wife.
For example, in my situation my wife's OM was going thru the local police academy, studying to become a cop. I found out that there is a formal review process whereby any private citizen can write a letter of objection (or recommendation) for any candidate, and that "moral turpitude" issues are given very careful scrutiny and taken very seriously. So I did that. Glad I did, and I would do it again. But I didn't for ONE MINUTE think that it would do a damned thing to re-attract my wife. At the point I did it, I was DONE. (we later reconciled).
