H's decision about the tuition was to pay the rest of the year off and not have to deal with monthly bills. Fine by me. If he'd go ahead and pay the next six years after that, then I wouldn't have to address that legally in a D settlement. ;-)
I replied this morning to H's holiday suggestion that we spend "at least part" of Thanksgiving and Christmas together as a family. I told him that it was something to consider but I wasn't ready to commit to that yet, let's reevaluate later. So that's off the table for a while.
I just need to have this move-out done with and let me settle myself a little. It's like the sword of Damocles.
