Need Help before I blow a fuse.

[20&lost]

I am meeting with my DB coach today. In our last meeting she told me to offer friendship, patience and to be positive and to add humor. Told me to start GAL, which I have and that even tho I have treated her relationship with her male friend as if I am "ok" with their relationship, that I need to let her know I am uncomfortable with as much she does with and for him. I really think that she feels for him as a little brother. He is the type of person leans on my W for everything. He has big financial issues and before I started DBing, I did some checking and she is helping him financially without telling me. I have never brought to her her attention that I know she is helping him but it bothers me that she helps without telling me. This is something I have working on myself in dealing with. It is not a large amount of money just a couple hundred per month. My issue is is that I like the guy and if she would or had gone to the trouble of making him a family friend, I wouldn't have an issue with this. It is the secrecy that bothers me. I know this doesn't make sense.