NAP, You are the only one that can decide if you want to go another year or not you want to communicate w/him. Why not try going dimmer and not dark for a while. He's quite happy status quo and why should he even think of changing anything when he can have his cake and eat it too, w/ice cream on the side?
One change that could be made at this time is that if he's interested in the welfare of his 14 yr old daughter is for him to contact her directly and not ask you. She's old enough to respond to his inquiries.
Divorce won't change anything in the way that you all have been communicating unless you want it to. Again, only you can decide if and when you want off the coaster.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
