H called after I posted! He said that he's not sure what I want to happen as far as son staying with him. H said the only thing is is he won't be driving him to school where I live now. So h is not against the boy living with him...only that he'd want son to go to school near h's house.
So I said cool well h talk it over with son, see what you 2 can work out and I'll support any decision you 2 make. I want what son wants and what will work best for you 2. H said hmmm.
So once again I left it in h's court to solve.
Then h jumped to making departure plans for Florida. Asked me what time we should leave on Saturday. I gave my opinion then said but that is contingent upon your schedule and how tired you are AFTER work. H wanted to go out with friends that night then leave for Florida Sunday. I just agreed and said lastly that whatever he wants is cool with me. He said ok I'll let you know.
I told h to have a good day and said good bye.
I think my son will appreciate more one on one time with dad even if dad says no to him moving over there.
Cindy
PS> I did better than bring a swimsuit issue to h last night...brought my happy fun-loving self! No deep convos about anything. Told h let's just make plans to just have plain old fun...go out together, go out with his friends, go out with mine, go golfing, go traveling, just plain old go have fun! H's face was full of surprise...mostly that I did not push an r talk, AND that I was not pushing working on the m. I did tell him m was important but that we've been too tied up with lawyers, counselors, etc., and need to let loose some! He said ooookkk kind of in a shocked voice.
I was hurt he chose not to eat dinner with us but to go out with his guy friend instead but oh well. We'll have 10 days together for that next week!!!
No pressure is the name of the game! Thanks for helping me out. I think I'm getting it...or at least h thinks I am!
