Well to answer your question I make just about everything save for about 800-1000 a month. We have a joint bank account that we both have debit cards for. We also have three cars two of which are in both our names, the third in just hers.
However there was a major development tonight...we went over to the OM house again tonight and I couldn't stand how the two of them were acting towards each other. I checked her phone again at home and this time found not only more topless pics that were certainly not sent to me, but also raunchy messages about how she missed his body/affection etc. Also said things about kissing each other and explicit references to sex.
I woke her up and confronted her. She still refused to admit having sex with the OM but I just assume it at this point. I gave her the ultimatum of breaking all contact or I would start removing her from all of our joint accounts. She revealed that she had been close to suicide while I was gone but never told me or got help. She turned to another man. Now given these choices she's threatening that again, as she sees no choice that is good for her. I don't think she sees me as someone she can live with anymore but knows she can't provide for herself either. This is the worst day of my life
