Joe1981, thank you for your input! I'm already far closer to a better version of the woman he fell in love with than I've been since we had our first child. (Motherhood didn't treat me well...) and I'm so pleased with myself. It's weird to say that my life is actually better and easier now than it was before he left. Overall, I'm happier and more confident. I don't think that's a result of his absence, but a result of the wakeup call he force-fed me. I'm a better person and I'm far happier for it. I just pray that he will eventually wake up (preferably before I birth the child I'm carrying) and come be a part of this better life. I know he's unhappy, it's evident every time I see him (you'd think he'd at least fake it...right?) and a mutual close friend agrees that tucker seems miserable whenever he sees him...so I pray that sooner or later he realizes that I'm not the source of his unhappiness...since I'm as out of the picture as I can be without cutting off the kids' contact with him...and he still hasn't found his happiness.
Me: 30 Him: 30 Daughter: 5 Son: 3 Daughter: 1 Started dating: 2008 Married: 2010 He moved out: late 7/14