Let's review your sitch's progress over the past month, shall we??
-ML twice -H accepted/accepts your deliciously, outrageously GOOD baked stuff -Starting to open up about the A -Offering to give you updates while on company outing tmw -Offered you to accompany him to the vendor event Thurs nite -Is working on finding a MC in the area -Drinking your STFU juice (shhhh...don't tell, it's actually Shirley Temple )
I'd say....pretty DARN good!!! You need to applaud those positives. They are all laid out right in front of you and YET you focus on the tiny, tiny negative parts that blows up very large in your head.
The tiny part is that H isn't at home. That is really, really tripping you up every time. Every SINGLE time. Please set aside all thoughts about H coming home. Really.
Your H isn't your H. He is your new boyfriend. Treat him like a new boyfriend....listen to him like a lover. Validate him and thank him for opening up to you as you imagine that it is difficult for him.
Keep the road home paved smooth, MDU! C'mon...focus, baby!
Game plan for tomorrow:
-When H texts you, keep your responses light, fluffy, breezy...if you can, use humor. -Use neon red "Stop Sign" in your head if you find your mind straying into OW. She's nuthin'!!!!!! She doesn't take up space in your head rent-free!
Let me qualify that...the XOW is the furthest thing on your mind. Nothing. She's a gnat that has been squashed by H. Good for him!
Going forward, I'm gonna say "XOW" for the A is truly over. Trust me.
Serene. Confident. Peacefulness. Joy. That's the new MDU.
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