So sorry to hear of H's move to an apartment. It might be a good thing for you two since it will give you space and will allow H to see what life will look like without being around family. That will present a strong contrast for H and it may take some more time for H to come to the realization that "the grass isn't greener on the other side".
Give your feelings time to settle down a bit and you'll get some clarity soon enough. Allow the process flow naturally and you'll have your answers soon enough about the holidays.
