Ouch, I celebrated W's 40th birthday and our 15 yr anniversary. Oh well, not a LOT of damage done, the anniversary was awkward but we got through it and we actually had fun with the boys.
I don't mean to undermine what a DB coach said, but I feel somewhat strongly that if the marriage produced children, that should be acknowledged. I think the kids feel better about their existence
b/c I KNOW my oldest two kids both asked if I felt that having them, was the reason for our marital strife.
TO which I replied, "God no. Having you guys is why we work at trying to stay to together!"
Anniversaries are reminders for them of the positive impact they've had on us. Truly, if the only way I could have those children in my life, was to go thru this entire ordeal, I'd do it all again in a heartbeat. Like sending a picture of them with a note saying something along the lines of "It's still worth remembering", or "we did something right!" etc. And nothing romantic in it (that's pursuit).
Just food for thought.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
