Answer~ they are aliens! Been through this crap for months. One time H won't do a thing with D's the next he falls all over himself trying to help them.
I just learn to step back from the drama and let H do whatever he thinks is right. I no more step in and remind him he is a father. All I worry about is ME being a mother, LOL! And that works for me! Because if they don't want to keep a R going with their children, it's not our fault.
LOL, in our dog is giving my H the cold shoulder! MAkes me want to laugh! Because it's us that keep a R going with kids and aniimals that win; we have their respect and love, our H loose out! LMAO!