WAW - no contact, now refuses therapy, file?

[AWAW]

I'm guilt of Mr Nice Guy. Working on that, probably wouldn't be in this sitch had I known ahead of time.

WAW walked out 5 weeks ago. I said this was not mutual and didn't agree with it but she insisted. I asked for at least a controlled S with boundaries but she refused and said unknown amount of time with no rules except neither of us should date. Have since caught her with a guy/guys ("friends") a couple times and she has told me expanding her social circle is a priority over our marriage. That she wants to have fun. Basically throwing in the towel and going to party while have a H on the backburner #cake eating

I made the common mistake of going ballistic, exposing, accusing, pleading and pushed her further away. There has not been any effort on her part to reconcile over the last 5 weeks. In our last therapy session I told her I had no trust due to the walk out itself, hanging out with guys (bars, venues, her new house), and her lack of communication over the past month. She blew up that I didn't trust her saying she deserved it since she has been trustworthy for 7 years. I laughed and said trust isn't a lifetime membership card and you have to earn it. Walking out on a marriage and hanging out with guys during a sensitive time like an S does not earn trust.

So after 5 weeks she has not contacted me with any signs of getting back together or even meeting to talk about the relationship. Total chaotic one way separation. She's totally checked out and has admitted to bring that way for many months.

I believe she is in the Fog right now but she denies any EA is going on, but she has repeatedly given me the ILYBINILWY and said she's not attracted to me anymore.

Since finding all this info like DB and TAM I have hit the gym hard, gone to IC, read NMMNG and now MMSLP.

All signs point to WAW having EA but I don't need hard evidence, the fact she's just walked makes me question her as a good partner going forward (she did this when we were dating 5 years ago too). She is a runner and not sure I deserve that since I am committed to sticking it out learning, and being better because of it. But it takes two.

She has said she is not sure if wants to work things out, and doesn't know how long this S is for (cake eating) but has not contacted me. She doesn't want any more MC. I have done the 180 for about 2 weeks now and NC period for one week.

Family telling me to file and begin to move on,which I've already been doing. Just don't know if I should file now, wait a little longer, or let her do it and just focus on me.

Either way it is the worst feeling having a WAW, especially one that you love deeply, and I feel for y'all going thru the same thing. But I've recently learned I need to watch out for me,own the 50% I contributed in the marriage problems and learn from them but I have absolutely no control over a WAW and need to move on.

Ready to file, any thoughts?

Thanks