still holding on - 4

[u-turn]

Thanks dawgy for the lighthouse reminder - it helps me a lot. I am still trying to stay positive and show her that I am - trying to be the best person I can be if the opportunity returns. I know we have heard it before, but I hope you are doing that too.

Shakspr: I have researched D and legal separation (there is a 1 year max time limit for a legal separation in my state IN).

I know everything has changed and I have no idea what her reaction will be, but putting my rose colored glasses on - everything in our lives has been 50/50. For the last year that even applies to our salaries. I don't see too many arguments on a continued equal split of everything.

I think a separation (just living separately) as opposed to a legal separation may be effective for both of us (unless we see that there is too much conflict). It may give us the time to get our sht together and figure ourselves out. I have a feeling that the biggest things we could separate from each other is our time and emotions (I'm not sure if this makes sense). Anything else to me seems like a D and it is final.

Neither of us are materialistic - It would all come down to the kids and probably our emotions.