Newbie Error- LRT too Soon- help!

[Bart42]

Starsky, sorry for any rambling or bad editing. Two main "recovery" periods- after I initially found out about the A, and again after I found out it was a PA not just an EA. After each, we worked back to date nights, movies on the couch, good family vacations, handholding, basic smooching, spooning, etc. The basics. After Labor Day, when I found out she's been lying and it never ended, there has been none of that.

Don't take my "find the center" comments too literally. Her life is a mess- perhaps a little MLC (although I don't want to "blame" MLC as I see here its easy to slide into long term cake eating if you're not careful), her sports injury which has removed workouts (her main stress relief) from her life; insane job pressures (she's in a high pressure full time tech job), our marriage problems which were definitely there for a few years, then dealing with all my demands around ending the A. Not making excuses for her but recognizing she is a mess and her claims of needing calmness so she can deal with all these pressures and figure out what's best for her may have a decent element of truth in it. Believe what you observe, right- well she spend Sunday basically shut down on a lounge chair in the backyard despite repeated pleas from S to do something (I was with D at sports. So the statements around needing time to sort things may not be 100% about keeping me as Plan B (then again maybe I'll get served tomorrow).