Feels like an eternity (Mindsin - part. 3)

[mindsin]

You were painting her horribly, but that's NOT how she said it at all. Why not say, word for word what she said and not put any spin on it?.

Good point.

Also, the mind reading and projecting is tiresome for me. I keep having to remind myself about how you assume the worst of her based mostly on your own past behavior, which is SO unfair. You assume she's doing what you did to her, scheduling the trysts and all.

I'm not basing any of it on my past behavior. I am not assuming she's doing what I did to her. It's different.

so the "fact" that she's with OM is actually IN FACT, just your assumption? Oh Good grief...she 'never actually mentions him"....! How can you keep this game of victimhood up so well??

It's an assumption much like the assumption that the sun will rise tomorrow morning. She waits until the kids are asleep and waits until 10:00PM or later to leave the house. I am 100% certain the overnights are spent with the OM. If she is going anywhere else (e.g. out with friends), she always tells me the details.

I don't. Just Stop it. If you cannot see what YOU are doing here, I can. At worst, she's having an A-- but she is NOT throwing it in your face which you have made her out to be doing. I ASSUME you do this to make you look like a victim and her the worst of all cheaters...but I really don't know.

No, she is not throwing it in my face. But she's having an A, for certain. I'm not sure why you're trying to suggest otherwise. I would LOVE if it was otherwise!

To me, She seems to be TRYING to get along with you.

She's giving you the truth about where she's going - and showing you her calendar to prove it, so you can check it (not that you should) and that is why SHE is being transparent with you!

Agreed, she is trying to get along with me. I used to be consumed with wondering the reasons why she is doing so. Is she stringing me along? Keeping me sane so I don't hurt her, her career, or the OM? Is she genuinely concerned for my feelings and well-being? I stopped playing that guessing game long ago.