Need to figure out how to move forward (thread #4)

[shodan]

Today has been a little better. I wrote down the following list as a reminder to myself...

Avoid all A and R talks, it brings up the negative stuff, need to focus positive
Do NOT jump to conclusions….when I see her on her phone, I ASSUME it is with the OM and get mad. I just need to ignore it and detach.
Do not be mean
Be kind and decent
Do not pursue
Do not talk about the A
Stay calm
Exude confidence and be attractive (social, interesting, fun, moving on)
GAL/detach
Be a great dad
Be light and breezy
Act as if
Know that I will make it
Be independent
Avoid love busters
- Dishonesty
-Disparaging comments
- Selfish demands
- Angry outbursts
- Individual pursuit

In some sense all of this would be SO MUCH easier if we were separated. I never would see her, which would allow me to detach. My W comes back late tonight so I will see her in the morning at some point. I am going out tomorrow night, have a thing at my kids' school Thursday night and then am going out Friday night as well, so my time with her will be limited.

I know I can show her fun/confident Sho when we are around each other. My issue is detaching...hard to do when she is present.