Good question- my goals are to be more affectionate (his biggest complaint) and to be less defensive. My life for the past 7 years has been just about my kids. I was envious that DH was having so much fun with work and resented him. I'm actively looking for a job so I can GAL. I always involve my kids in everything but more likely now to make plans w or w/o him (he doesn't have to come). Our kids are big into family time so I don't put the pressure on him anymore. Honestly I can't afford to call a DB coach. $700 is not in my budget. As far as clues that R has changed are seeing how marriage counseling is going. I'm focusing on my happiness and hoping that he stops being so angry w me for the years he swept his feelings under the rug. He's been more comfortable communicating with me lately and realizes that I'm not going to scream when he tells me the truth (I didn't scream when I found out about the affair). Am I in the right frame of mind? I don't know which end is up most days.
