Need Help before I blow a fuse.

[25yearsmlc]

Also I have not told her about the SCUBA lessons. She will get mad either way so I have not figured the best approach. If she initiates a conversation it is usually pleasant but if I do it is always one or two word responses. I have had a couple of positives on my goal list.

Do not assume she'll get mad. Plus why is her reaction to this relevant? Why are you doing the SCUBA lessons anyhow?

Have you really read the books? You might benefit by another read and don't be offended by that comment.

I literally read them 2-3 times during the 'ordeal', and have again read them both from time to time.

Anyway, the books talk about NOT projecting so much negativity into your expectations.

Your kids are SCUBA qualified and I think you're doing it in part to GAL and in part to bond with them. Its a piece of fathering you may have been missing out on.
If so, then let that knowledge (ie., your good reasons) radiate from within, and be confident. HER reaction is not to be factored into this.

But so I know, are the reasons above^^ that I just cited, the real reasons for you doing this, or is there something in there that will anger your wife?

Is it b/c SHE lacks the time but you don't, and therefore she thinks she is harder working, or a money thing or what?

Is there a detail here you care to share? WHY do you think she'll be angry?

Also I noticed your list of goals had far far more things you want or expect FROM HER and not many of yourself.

IMO, you could Change that focus and reverse the ratio. In other words, list a FEW things you'd like to have with her or from her, and a whole lot more of you and from you.

Do you see why I suggest that?