Wet, The A definitely continues- before I learned how destructive snooping was, I saw all the txts about the meetups, hotel rooms, etc. I've shown her proof (such as plane tickets with his name on them) to her before she admitted to the PA and she just denied, so putting the proof in front of her this time will do no good, but I am sure the PA continues.
I don't want to lose creditability, but I've got newfound strength from coming here and from DR, and I don't think I am ready to give up after three months. I didn't tell her "end it or else" but instead simply stated that I wanted to separate b/c I could not continue with our marriage while the A continued. I'm still thinking perhaps I can walk a fine line here and say I still want to separate, that I will not work on our marriage, but after 15 years of marriage I can give her a little time to find her center and get in a good place, for her sake and for the kids, before we start the separation process. I can maybe do that while going dark and GAL without starting the separation process rolling. At least that's my (current) hope.
BTW, all the "date nights" were before I knew she had never ended it.
Me: 45 W:43 M: 15, T:21 2 Kids- S-14, D-12 A Started: 10/2013 Discovered as EA: 6/2014, as PA: 7/2014 A changing, not ending Start DB'ing 9/2014 Same house, same bed
