* You've already been dealing with this for a long time and have had time to get to that place.
* You're not MLC, which as you know is not a rational mind. So you are capable of rational thought and unselfishness.
* You weren't the one who opened the divorce conversation.
* You aren't acting out against any particular guilt for having hurt your H impacting the way you respond to him (meaning the affair, etc.; not the stuff you have changed since BD)
If your original point was how you WILL go about dissolving the marriage when you get to that point, then I apologize for misreading. If your point was how your H should have behaved when he decided he wanted out, then I think mine stands. Honestly, EVERY time I say "I would" or "I would never" it comes back to haunt me. So I try to avoid saying it now. Because life is long and chaotic.
As far as making the decision that you are done standing and have decided to move on, I don't think there's a soul on earth who would reasonably fault you for that decision, nor for being snotty about it when you go to implement.
I hope we're on the same page -- I'd hate for you to misunderstand that I'm essentially agreeing but with caveats.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
