Hi Bart42, you are in the right place. A couple of 2x4's first:
- Don't give ultimatums without being willing to enforce them.
- And 2nd, you are mind-reading (see points 1 and 2, above). Start detaching, which is your best hope for yourself.
Now you wrote that W denies the affair after you gave her the ultimatum, so do you have undeniable proof that she is continuing the affair? Isn't the easy way out of your dilemma to assume she is telling the truth? Best wishes.
